"Ganja" Guy

I do not have a specific date for this guy because it is an on-going story. We will call him Ganja because that is what he calls his pot that he smokes on a regular basis.

Ganja and I work in the same department at work. He joined the company this summer and I always thought he was cute, but was probably too young for me and not my type. Last month I had my first conversation with him, when I teased him about having his cell phone ringing while he was out of the room. I really didn't intend it to start anything, but he kept talking and talking. We began IMing during work and by the end of the next week he had invited me over to watch a movie with him. We ended up not watching the movie and just sat and talked, in which he showed his love for philosophical discussions that go nowhere. Nevertheless, I did have a good time and enjoyed his company.

The next night he invited me over so he could make dinner for us and we watched "Changeling" with Angelina Jolie. We also did some talking and reading over some name and personality books that I'd brought over. Throughout our conversations that evening I learned about his atheism, beliefs in astrology and other bizarre values, and then it was the next day that he shared a story about getting high. He was attempting to show how crazy a fellow coworker gets when he's high, but it only cemented in my mind, that this guy really was not for me. If he's hanging out with coworkers getting high and then letting them drive away, there's something really wrong.

We have continued to be friends since then, but I have been very upfront with him about the fact that we will never be a couple and that I'm not interested in him that way. We both realize that the most important thing is to maintain a working relationship and be able to get along at work.

It was this last week when we were hanging out at his cousin's house, that he shared his thoughts on "ganja" and the medical benefits it has. I couldn't believe my ears. Granted, some people with cancer have found it to be useful, but those are extreme cases. I, in no way, advocate using illegal drugs. He uses on a regular basis to take the edge off of a hard day at work or long week. He told me he considers it no more dangerous than having a beer or two. He says both help calm you down and it doesn't cause any other damage. He compared it to taking any other OTC or perscription drug to relieve discomfort. How stupid do you have to be to believe that load of crap? Here's a guy who evidently believes everything his drug dealer tells him, and never looks sideways to see what other information is out there to the contrary.

This is coming from a guy who is a father of a three year old, who he isn't allowed to see. What I should have asked him was at what age he thought he introduce his son to it, since it's so safe and all. I'm thinking whoever the mother is is probably a smart woman to protect her child from a guy who goes out drinking even though he knows he shouldn't. Smokes cigarettes even though they can kill you. Smokes pot even though it can ruin your life. And firmly believes in astrology, but doesn't believe in God because there's no proof.

So, I should have stuck with my initial thoughts on him and stayed away. He seemed like the partier kind of guy, who flirts with every woman and has no other hobbies or intellectual pursuits than sports and drinking.